And Now, After the Requiem…

An Idea Whose Time is – NOW: OCCUPYING ONESELF
 
After over half a century of the New Age Movement what progress have we made, really? We have of course our political correctness, a “spiritual language,” our beliefs, and tightly held convictions and dogmas: our New Age fundamentalisms. We speak about helping humanity, changing or saving our planet. Yet, this is distraction!

LIFE IS NEITHER ABOUT THE COLLECTIVE NOR WHAT IS “OUT THERE!”

If salvation is warranted it lies within each of us individually. The only changes deserving our attention are those within each of individually. This is our charge, our task:

• To love ourselves.
• To heal our injuries.
• To learn to navigate personal challenges graciously.
• To embody the brilliance of our creative expression.
• To reveal ourselves to others.
• To let go of what no longer works in our lives.
• To act with compassionate intelligence.
• To befriend Wisdom.
• To remember our dignity, beauty and innocence are always intact.
• To consent to life as it is.
• To listen to the Mystery’s moment and respond.
• To improve our relationship to power.
• To stop fearing those who differ from us.
• To give up wanting to annihilate those who differ.
• To offer counterforce without attack.
• To attend to and help those coming up behind us without imposing our will or intent.
• To support the self confidence of those we love.
• To say Yes to Life!

The only one we can change and save is our own self. Improving conditions for humanity, for our societies, cultures, economies, and our relationship with our Earth cannot be pursued directly. Doing so is folly. Distraction. The changes we desire for our world ensue from doing what changes ourselves, giving ourselves over to change. This requires self compassion and self discipline!
 
CLARITY, STRENGTH AND POWER ENSUE FROM BEING HONEST WITH ONESELF!
 
• What will it take to stop pretending?
• What will it take to stop pretending that I am not pretending?
• What self-deceptions await my letting go?
• What will it take to let go of resisting life?
• What will it take to say YES to Life?
• What will it take to make the radical step of truly loving myself?
• What will it take to attend to something beyond my mind, self-critical nemesis, personality and body? to attend instead to life’s beauty and Grace?
• What will it take to muster the discipline and courage to allow myself to be changed by the Mystery? to claim and occupy my sovereign self?

Adrienne Rich’s poem: Time

Either you will
go through this door
or you will not go through.

If you go through
there is always the risk
of remembering your name.

Things look at you doubly
and you must look back
and let them happen.

If you do not go through
it is possible
to live worthily

to maintain your attitudes
to hold your position
to die bravely

but much will blind you,
much will evade you,
at what cost who knows?

The door itself
makes no promises.
It is only a door.

Comments (8)

Meriel BarberJune 13th, 2012 at 1:54 pm

thanks for sharing.. so far as I can see.. and perhaps my vision is flawed.. Being human after all I do agree that this occupying space that begins with me takes a certain kind of interaction with all that I can be.. Mind and body, heart and soul.. I occupy my space sometimes in a way that is bold. I lie not to myself, kindred, friend or foe. I find joy in doing work that heals and strength in the love I find where ever I go. I am not blind to the world of woe but this does not stop me from spreading light to where ever the four winds blow. Doors and windows without a doubt help some to feel that opportunity awaits. For me all doors are open and no window is shut. I love myself as I love others and in this I am complete.

PaulJune 13th, 2012 at 2:05 pm

Thank you for sharing. This article really resonates with me. “Be the change”.

Marla EstesJune 13th, 2012 at 5:40 pm

I couldn’t agree more that the way to change the macro is to address the micro. For me, what Stephen describes is why wonderfully visioned structures collapse…because the people involved have not done their inner work and the shadow will creep out. Thanks for bringing this important work out into the world

Katrina MeyersJune 13th, 2012 at 6:03 pm

Stephen is one of my favorite teachers because of his laser sharp ability to see what is true. This blog is one example of his wisdom, and why his work is making such a profound difference in the world.

IreneJune 17th, 2012 at 6:31 am

Bellissimo Stephen! I couldn´t agree more to what you are writing, in fact, reading this blog and practice what it is saying could be the only tool we need to really change and be who we are. In Sweden we have an expression, “ord bajsa”, which literally translated into English will be “word-pooing”. There is a lot of this in the “self development and spiritual world”. Lots of words, not so much doing-working for real. Lots of hiding behind it. Lots of pretending (I love your “stop pretending that I am not pretending”) I will forward this blog post to my network. Thanks for writing and posting it! And for walking your talk!

stephenJune 18th, 2012 at 1:59 pm

“Word-pooing” – I know this in myself. I was once one who regarded “awareness” as intellectual understanding, falsely believing conceptual awareness to be sufficient. Albeit incomprehensibly important, intellectual prowess, understanding and conceptual knowledge is the great ruse. Our efforts at seeking more and more understanding come at the cost of believing that its acquisition is itself enough. We have measured input rather than outcome. We settle for intellectual abstractions foregoing concrete life-affirming and life-changing sentient experience.

We need not perpetuate the rendering of experience irrelevant. Pursuing meaning in life is folly! Joseph Campbell’s perspective reflects wisdom: Did he not say something to the effect? we are here to experience the rapture of being alive. This requires us to discipline ourselves, t go beyond the imprisoning angst or comfort of our habitual thinking. We are best served when we give ourselves over to actual experience (as opposed to psychological experience). In doing so Life can change us. We are best served when we discipline ourselves to change our behaviors, and to embody a compassionate intelligence that is lived through our creative expressions with self, others and the world.

ErnieAugust 28th, 2012 at 6:10 pm

I’ve had lots of word-poo. It can make quite a mess. “Clean-up on aisle ‘me’!”

stephenSeptember 7th, 2012 at 5:46 pm

Thanks, Ernie. I agree, laughing at the personality’s actions is the greatest boon!!!

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